A mother has shared her frustration on social media about her mother-in-law ruining the Easter lunch. Talking about her experience on the social platform Mumsnet, she explained how her mother-in-law ruined the lunch she had spent hours preparing.

The mum claimed she spent ages shopping, cleaning the house, and preparing all the food to make everything nice for their guests.

However, she was left feeling “undermined” and “disrespected” when her mother-in-law then turned up with her own pudding – which everyone proceeded to eat instead of the one she had spent time making.

The woman claims the rest of the guests didn’t want the mother-in-law to be offended, which is why they opted for her dessert and this isn’t the first time the older woman has done something like this.

Talking about the episode on the social media website, the wife asked people who was in the wrong – her husband, her guests or her.

Her post read: “Spent ages shopping, cleaning, preparing, and cooking for Easter lunch yesterday for extended family. Spent ages making a really nice dessert.

“Mother-in-law rocks up with a dessert, not even a nice one, and then everyone says they will have hers as they don’t want to offend her. She seems upset that I have made one.

“I tell my husband that I am not happy. I used to make Sunday roasts and she would turn up with veg and a chicken and insist on having it on the table alongside whatever else we had made.

“I just feel it is undermining, and no one has the bottle to go against her. I am sick of it.

“There were other things that happened, and collectively they make me feel like I’m someone they have to put up with and I feel disrespected in my own home.”

She added that her husband thinks she is “overreacting” but to her it felt like the meal had been “ruined”.

In the comments, people were divided over who was right and who was wrong, with one person replying: “Next time message beforehand and say ‘please don’t feel that you need to contribute a dessert or anything I’ve got a lovely sweet treat planned’.

“I’d be upset too I love cooking and baking. If she wanted to make the food she’d need to invite me to hers.”

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Another said: “Bringing desert is generally a nice gesture and one to incorporate graciousciously (even if you think the intent behind it is undermining rather than generous).

“But guests who tell a host to just not bother with food they’ve planned and purchased are disrespectful and ungrateful. And the way to deal with that is to not ask them again.

“Let your husband cook if he wants to ask his family round. You put your feet up and have whichever pudding you like the look of.”

A third replied: “I completely understand, it’s like your mother-in-law is saying what you’ve prepared isn’t good enough and then your husband isn’t on your side. Which makes all the difference.”

However, some didn’t see an issue with the second pudding, adding: “This all seems like a very dramatic overreaction to me.

“It’s normal for someone to bring something along as they want to contribute to the hard work you’ve put in. I think you are being very unreasonable and dramatic in my opinion.”

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